Why I stopped ‘supporting’ IVF
Some people may have been told that IVF is the only option – it may well be medically – or you could actually find and fix the blockage to sex making babies – perhaps look into this $2 app first . .
When I first started assisting couples to become families in the late ‘70’s, there was no other way of helping than by doing what farmers and householders had always done – improve what you were making the babies/ farm produce with . .
1 – This meant overhauling health
(Not a medical issue/interest/focus)
A signof rude good health is easy fertility. There is no need to seek a specialist in surgery /reproductive medicine, but a holistic health one. Babies are made through well parents-to-be having regular unprotected sex. If you seem to need ‘help’ to do what comes naturally, then Nature is being ignored – one or both of you are not strong enough to carry the genetic information on for future survival of the fittest.
SOLUTION – See a natural health care person who knows this and does not try to ‘help’ your not good enough sperm (under 30% looking normal made from a healthy, vibrant man) onto a potentially maternally unprepared system that is not going through a totally normal symptomless cycle with a BBT that looks perfect – in a mother –to-be who is well an emotionally stable enough to be a mum – through all this means. Please note that my clinic is full of couples with men whose sperm is at least 3 times LESS fertile than what was considered to be the least fertile only four years ago – something has happened and it is massively distressing for all concerned.
There are great books that seem totally overlooked to help you here.
2) – Ruth Sharkey wrote many books targeting fertility help over the past 20 years
3) – Dr Judy Ford ‘It Takes Two’.
4) Sally Fallon Morel ‘The Nourishing Traditions of Baby and Childcare’ – to get you started as a couple eating for spectacular healthy prior to and throughout being a family.
5) – ‘The Hidden Causes of Infertility’ – Dr Sandra Cabot and Margaret Jasinska
6) – Another book that may be helpful to you is ‘fertility and conception’ by Zita West
7) – ‘The Infertility Cure’ by Randine Lewis
2 – Ensuring there was sufficient raw ingredients.
All farmers and animal breeders know – you get out what you put in. (Still now western orthodox medicine says ‘there is no evidence’ to show that changing diet affects inflammation/pain/ cancer/diabetes or in fact any health problem at all – as their focus is on drugs and life management of illness, not the return of vibrant health and happiness).
You could start by asking a very pertinent question – ‘what are we making this baby with?’ Do we even know what we need to make the best raw ingredients with?
SOLUTION – Overhaul your diet – follow what traditional peoples have always done – not what current science would have you believe is the next ‘right’ thing to do. However do you think past generations got us to here without evidence and studies? They used their own knowledge of raising their own food and applied the same principles – good soil, appropriate feed and no stress. (Chooks go ‘off the lay’ if upset).
Especially consult what your great grand parents did in their day – and live and eat accordingly for better health, vitality and babies. See sacred foods.
Get rid of what should never have been within you
These are now negatively impacting upon all in all life processes at all levels. Research this yourself – medicine has not caught up with the 21st century.
There is no testing for safety of any new chemical used – and as most are not ingested, there is only marginal safety nets – with no acknowledgement of bio accumulation and the cofactoring of all these into vulnerable life forms and ecosystems.
Coupled with the massive swing away from common sense over the past several decades, people no longer grow their own food, or seem to care about quality over taste and convenience, thus being totally divorced from natural life. What used to be know as natural laws are now often seen as ‘old wives’ tales’ and being ‘old fashioned’.
SOLUTION – Seek ways that remove the inner toxins that has had often many lifetimes/generations of being handed down/bequeathed to accumulate within you – all messing with the pristine state your body works optimally within.
[Especially when there is now such big money to be made by all selling dreams on hopes and now through fear (getting too old/time running out/’AMH too low’ etc)].
Why is ALL the above so important?
1) – There is no ‘infertile’, and it is surely not ‘genetic’ but epigenetic any problems you are having, having babies.
There are a lot of not well enough to-be-parents though.
There is no ‘unexplained’ infertility. It is a matter of not asking the right questions/ looking for the right problem to solve. Often in this retail industrial world, where the IVF clinics are listed on the Stock Exchange, there is anything BUT a concerted effort to ensure you get the best, or even make any baby.
Infertility it is all totally logical and reasonable – something is preventing what sex is designed to do – make babies. When the health of both prospective parents is seen not through a medical investigation (not their scope of practice) but a natural health one – it is obvious. It was obvious – now I am seeing in clinic well couples who are not making babies – as the inner debris is not visible – and this is where the undoing of modern life is so very important – that means go to http://simple-natural-detox.com/ and order your own safe and effective way to remove the heavy metals and other chemical junk that has made its way into your tissues.
Look at how hormones (life messengers) are made – and what gets in the way http://simple-natural-detox.com/hormones/
This helps answer the questions the medical specialists have no answers for – you may have had when an apparently good amount of eggs are collected and none or few fertilise, or ‘make it’ to become embryos – let alone a babe in arms.
AHM ‘too low’
Also please look to the presentation here http://easybabies.com.au/male-bbt/
I almost never see fertile men – here are some stories from clinic –
Recently a woman took three sessions with me, went home and ate differently, took herbs and supplements and – was pregnant. This was a usual event 30 years ago – and is now not. I stopped and evaluated the cases current in my clinic as to why this was so rare now. An accelerated path to a large waste of parental hopes and resources – as what used to work is not so much – without magic ingredients.
1) – I do not treat infertility, (I work to enhance wellness and fertility just happens) and that
2) – I do not support anyone going through IVF (unless the extensive health preparation has been well done), and that
3) – I only see couples together not just her – (at least 6 months active work on this) – they have been asked to go there by me when I think that they are ready to. Need at least 6 months of unprotected sex before then after she has totally normal periods and a perfect BBT chart, and he has a normal rectal temperature (36.7/8 C on arising – rectal) and sperm that are actually in the range (at least 50% normal looking and at least 100 million /ml) they needed to be when he was being made himself.
4) – They are both happy and well eating traditionally fertile diets and not full of pesticides and bromides and all the other chemicals that have lead them to me – in a word – now unexplainably not getting pregnant.
18 couples – all with men with sperm visual inspection (not really indicative of the quality of the inner DNA and hence baby quality) were under 5% looking normal – only one head and one tail and no horrible mangling.
All were told her health ‘problems’ are the cause. All with useless sperm as the potential fertiliser. In Melbourne where I was working on a locum arrangement recently for 4 months – all the 8 couples were told either ‘old eggs’ or that they needed donor eggs – yet ALL the men also were under 5% normal looking! Would any farmer be able to support that? (Get rid of the dud stud?).
Easy to ‘blame’ her – she is desperate and will try anything except the obvious – his sperm are reproductively useless. Looking hard there can always be found a woman’s plumbing problem – and now ‘low AMH’ to blame – if she has no endometriosis (women riddled with this and mated with Mr over 50% always were pregnant) – easily fixed with iodine and magnesium, Vit D and removing all toxic wastes that have found their way into her body.
This is why no one is getting pregnant – even if they go through ICSI – it is so bad. The women are also so stressed – who would not be – they are all told it is them – and sure – their bodies and lives are also impacted with what has messed with the man’s sperm – but still – in her state – were she coupled with Mr over 50% normal looking sperm – with no caffeine drunk and a well body – and neither on medications for any apparent ‘health’ problems – they would be parents – as their parents always were with unprotected sex – is anyone worried about where we are heading – very quickly?
Case 1 – 28 years old – and put in HRT.
(I am not sure why when a woman is not having normal cycles the medical specialists think artificial hormones enforcing a pretend cycle will normalize, whilst they ignore why the regular great bleeding is not happening).
Her man has 1% normal looking sperm and has diabolical IBS where he is poohing 10 times daily and is very stressed with his overly successful business, and snacks on rubbish ‘food’ substances all day. All attention is on her lack of normal cycle . .
Were she with Mr 50% normal, with perfect health on his part, she would likely be a mum. That is nature’s way – one helps the other over the baby line. Being pregnant her body would have pulled her into line to heal. Doctors and drugs not needed. Good sperm and healthy parents-to-be are.
She had many health problems. No one was investigating these, as the push to get a 28 day, not a 40 day cycle using HRT. Her BBT chart showed in coming off the HRT that her metabolism was not supporting normal cycling. No one was interested in her health preparation – so she was just distressed that IVF is not working. How could it with the sperm in such a mess? Independent of this and answering the question – how is she to foster a pregnancy in the nervous, thin and overly nervous state that she is in? Who seems interested in quality baby making?
Case 2 – 31 years old – She 2 children, him none.
She brought him in to see me, as she was easily pregnant to her first husband, and wanted to make his baby. As he had been married and not using protection for 9 years, and when the ex wife had tried she had conceived with her next partner in 6 months, he felt he may have needed to do something different. His sperm normal count was 14% – and he had drunk at least 6 cups of coffee for all his adult life.
Obvious solution – he was to just drink only water – no coffee at all, and eat more protein, more often. They are currently pregnant accidentally with their second child together.
Case 3 – she is also 31 – was told her AMH was so low (not what she can do to raise it naturally) that she needed to find donor eggs – which she did. They tried with IVF to make babies with these, and the terrible sperm that no one seemed to notice being the real problem.
However – prior to this I had reminded her that the state of her body was adjustable with a change in diet and lifestyle, and in taking far more care with adding more fat and protein and vegetables, and plain water – no substances, no chemicals and lot of B and C vitamins and minerals into their diet. Changing sexual position when she felt as though they were both ready – she could be pregnant – without too much extra money spent (as we all have to eat anyway).
The donor situation did not work – (his sperm were only 12% normal, not fast swimmers and ICSI was used). The sperm were not good enough yet (takes at least 90 days for changes to become apparent). They went on a holiday to compensate, she became accidentally pregnant – which she thought was due to finally being aware that sexual position mattered when having a retroverted (backwards facing) uterus.
Case 4 – she was 32 and had spent the past 5 years spending all their money, then refinancing their house and selling all their possessions to get pregnant – and so far had no babies, but was one tube down due to an IVF ectopic pregnancy, had had one miscarriage and had put in 20 kg, was feeling remarkably unwell and heart broken.
His sperm was 15% looking normal and his tongue showed me he was really ill – and sure enough – he lived on sugared ‘soft’ drinks – did not drink water – and had headaches all day, and terrible looking tongue fur, showing me his digestion was absolutely not supporting him, let alone great sperm production – it was always him..
She was told she needed donor eggs found. I suggested to get well, and get him off all substances, send him to a chiropractor for his neck, as both needed time to heal. Eventually she went to a gyne who had to repair her as the IVF had really damaged what she had left.
After reaching a health plateau, they kept on with the dietary and life changes and she naturally conceived six months later. All they ever needed to do was straighten out their diet and get him off ‘soft’ drinks and the constant gut medication and get well.
Case 5 – She is 41, just met Mr Right and had a lifetime of playing hard and being unwell behind her. Periods short, brown start, six weeks apart, hair falling out and hot feet out of the covers at night. (See Jing Markers) Never well. He has 4% normal looking sperm.
The IVF cycle made one follicle – no egg within. What were the IVF specialists thinking? What makes a great baby needs time to cultivate .. All peoples going back through time knew this – other wise they would have all been dead – as produce and stock kept them alive when all grew all their own food.
Case 6 – in the mid thirties, both had significant issues – her rampant endometriosis was debilitating – his caffeine, soft drinks, and marijuana smoking to control his inner anxiety was not helping. After a consultation with me to see about preparing for fertility after her massive endometriosis surgery, they both took all changes I suggested to heart and spent time diligently preparing to conceive – they thought through IVF.
After surgery, she came back to see what I would recommend she take prior to IVF – and found she was accidentally already pregnant – how did this happen? His prior 9% normal sperm had recovered once he had cleaned up his act, and she, now in a better state of health, had no inflammation within, allowing normal sex to make babies. Within two years they had again found themselves accidentally pregnant!!
Case – 7 – she is 21, he is 17½ years old. They see me as they have so far had 4 miscarriages after 2 years of trying to get pregnant. He has only 1% normal looking sperm, and as been directed to IVF. His rectal BBT is in the high 35’s. She has health problems due to her early life being fraught with eating and stress disorders. She is not well herself (reflected in her periods being shocking and bad back aching) – and the two of them – young as they are – are in no state to be nurturing life.
After a year of solid work on their part – especially her using the moxa and prostatic drainage homework – and taking all supplements and looking after themselves a whole lot better – they are both more vibrant and happily pregnant.
Case 8 – She at 45 with 2 children; he at 35 was a new entrant, and had still to undo the addictions of smoking weed, cigarettes, drinking all caffeinated beverages and eating whatever he felt like. Growing up seemed delayed, and the new woman wanted his baby. Whilst many would give up on her – it was his terrible sperm that was the holdup – and although she had gut and general health issues that were easily remedied – without the concerted efforts on his part – and on hers to ensure he stayed on the straight and narrow – their very healthy daughter (born when mum was 48) would not have happened
What do you do?
Actively change what you are doing as it is not working.
This means everything.
Not just spending money on the baby project.
Buy the books above and my eBook package as what I say is not in any of the ones above – but as a self help adjunct my work will give you the answers to why you need to do what the others may be saying (mainly they focus on detoxing and diet all essential).
This is an investment to your better babies – not any pregnancy and all the heartbreak of testing and terminations and no babies at the end of a very hard road – look to what you are making the family with, and adjust as you need to – then you will be like your forebears – way too many children . .
Few in history had to try to get pregnant – all the effort was in avoiding it.
What is missed now in this is the engagement in wellness, health and vitality.
Why – What is happening now?
Vast tracts of money are changing hands unnecessarily as people are shunted into not baby making factory style retail medical (and alternative medicine due to relevant research studies) protocols with little individual care and attention.
Thus you can do it yourself.
Now there is a trend that seems unstoppable – toxic residues impacting on normal life to the extent that well looking people are not conceiving. (That is evaluated as being well in my, not the orthodox not sick according to the medical model).
Those who had less than 5% normal sperm have gotten pregnant in the past have done so with the measures that used to work. I have wondered as to who achieved a well pregnancy in the past with far less than this – and all who have, have taken my advice and stepped up their interventions, also taking the two products that are designed to pull out heavy metals and toxic residues. These couples (previously seen as hopeless – one with no sperm being made at all) are now parents as the blockages to health were deep within and needed shifting in a different way.
Why do I say this?
I have been in this business for too long (35 years so far – well before IVF and big business muscled I to what is essentially women’s business, what people always knew and as farmers, automatically corrected in their herds/crops.
I see you all through your life, as a continuity of care practitioner.
This means that regardless of whether your baby is conceived, I still see you for all the health and life issues that pop up – often for decades.
There is more joy in doing a job well than in supporting you as you learn that there is an order in the world, and that you have violated it – through winning a (baby) lottery of chance – what do I mean .. .?
This may be confronting for you .. .
You may get pregnant by yourselves, or with the help of ART – but what next?
Being pregnant is not a healthy baby in arms of a great pregnancy in an intact family, with a very happy mum.
Without attention to health and the details nature would have had to correct – going the fast and expensive in all levels first way
1 – you maybe have a molar pregnancy or a
2 – pregnancy that will not ‘stick’ – or
3 – you are the one that gets the experience of having to terminate your baby as s/he is not formed properly,
4 – or you get the dead twins in utero as they compete against each other and both die,
5 – or you get the premmie baby who can’t make it,
6 – or a baby who failed to thrive, and died or who struggled and still now does
or/and and whose placenta shut down/off enough to cause lifelong issues
7 – or you get the baby who never breathed for whatever reason,
8 – or you get the compromised baby – all different scenarios, that you may feel happen to ‘someone else’ –
I see those ‘someone else’s’ are in my clinic . . . often decades later . . .
or a few weeks/months/years later as they can’t move through their lives to the next stage.
All of this is happening as we are not listening to nature.
Medicos may dissect the bodies of the dead babies, and look at ‘chromosomes’ – as though you are somehow doomed by birth accidents – yet you were perfectly well till this happened – so what about epigenetics?
That is what you have done /fed yourself – and also what has happened to your family line – all eating and living in the same toxic habits and experiences – not just physical – there are nasty memories. Patterns of family histories of abuse, and distress can also radically change what would have been a clean template.
You may ask – what to do about this?
Force a baby on yourself and hope all the above will miss you?
As I have said – it all happens to someone – and it is happening more frequently to all as we continue to break our health template in the quest for money, not using ‘common sense’ and what mothers always knew to do.
The game of ‘let’s all play medical roulette’ instead.
Not paying attention to what all mothers and farmers knew – that what we eat makes who we are. Not seeming to know or care that contaminants need to be well away from life, as anything that is anti life (for any creature, or plant) means trouble also for us. This may be off-putting to read.
Perhaps stop and investigate your body burden.
Then get the detox package that is so easy, safe and can be used all through a pregancy and especially when breastfeeding to ensure that the packages of chemicals that are fond in the baby’s cord blood – as an unwitting gift from mum – will be lessened for your children as you have removed them first.
I have been castigated by those who are upset by the inference on my sites – that going to IVF may not make a perfect outcome. Some get very upset that I suggest that a lack of preparation may make an imperfect baby . . . It is more off-putting for me to have to support someone who days, weeks/months/years before has been in this situation and is not able to move forwards. Also debilitating for you.
Perhaps instead being in a hurry, and of listening to the IVF hype, some research of your own may uncover the facts. We need in all endeavours to start at the bottom and work up – not jump to the head of the queue as there are consequences.
The excuse of ‘need donor eggs’ all the while ignoring that 4 % (current ‘acceptable level of NORMAL looking sperm in a semen same) – is ridiculous. 4 % used to be the least possible normal looking to try to make a baby with in ICSI – in a laboratory – and force a maybe good enough sperm into the egg.
Inferior and dud sperm at that – as now is 4 % only need to look ‘OK’ . . what doctors are saying is ‘good’/’OK’ and even great – this is because so few samples that are actually fertile – over the 80.5% mark that their dads would have had . . and when there were no testing or scanning – it was not a problem – pregnancy happened as designed – conception invariably meant a full term healthy baby.
Not now and not with this rubbish sperm and not even with throwing thousands of dollars away. Instead of starting with cleaning up the sperm generating cells so they can make decent sperm again – the woman is in the spot light .. .
The new deal is telling women that they need to find donor eggs.
Who is looking at the major drama – why this is happening and as it is happening to the sperm – what does it mean for the eggs and the mother-to-be’s body (and heart, if and when the bad sperm get through and start making a baby that will not make it as it is not viable enough to live outside her body with her supporting its life force??)
Why are women so proud of the rubbish that they are still eating in pregnancy?
or the alcohol that they are still drinking?
Or the habits that they know are not life affirming that they are still indulging in?
All of this is racked up in the developing baby and is not necessarily showing YET – but why is there such an explosion in cancer in the children? Neurological incompetence, and allergies/asthma/unhealthiness abounds?
We could ask – why is there not an investigation as to what make as wellness assured?
Whilst in Melbourne recently doing a locum I found many young women who had ‘bought’ into this idea – and all of them had partners whose sperm was under 10% looking normal!!!! So all were distressed as they faced making babies with someone else’s eggs – if they could afford this. Pretend that the sperm was not the major issue.
No one is speaking of removing all the toxins that are making normal impossible to happen – through messing with nutrient pathways and by contaminating all life. Babies are being born pre polluted.
There is no more room to move.
In two weeks I saw three men with ZERO normal looking sperm – and one of these was attending IVF clinics to make a baby with that – with no reference to undoing why the sperm in his case was all malformed. Or what they could do themselves to undo what is happening to then and all other couples .
There are just 3 ½ years since 4% normal looking sperm would have been thrown out. The acceptable level then was seen to be 15% looking normal. Which itself is a big problem as only 10 years ago it had to be 30%, and 20 years before that 50% looking normal.
Should we not be very worried for the future?
4% looking normal is not a pass mark, or even something to aspire to – it is the LEAST likely to be seen as being fertile – although I suspect that the needs investigating.
I say this as I was working with couples to help achieve a baby when the ‘infertile’ percentage for good sperm was 80.5% – which meant that if he had over 19.5% (not 96% wrong/bad/abnormal that is now seen as ‘good/OK) looking damaged/dodgy – head tail problems – many or mangle or either or both – that meant – his sperm was no good – as whatever had messed with what was visible would also have messed with what was inside that was not visible – what the DNA had to say.
(Perhaps if you are interested, get a sperm defragmentation test done). These results show what was happening three months ago and can change with your doing lots to improve yourself.
Sounds reasonable – we are so very fragile and what is happening to the planet was set in motion through greed some time ago and ‘The Silent Spring’ that Dr Rachel Carson spoke of in the early 1960’s is here – in the fish, the birds, the animals and in the human populations where not there is such trauma around sex not making babies – or at least great babies in healthy pregnancies to happy mums.
It is not a matter of luck that one of the issues mentioned above happens – it is a matter of poor planning – and all the work to be put in to get a couple of over a baby line seems to be superfluous when the razzle-dazzle of ART shines through – but – the hard yards of undoing life habits and complacency – and the toxic harvest (‘Our Stolen Future’) that has messed with your body really dictates that something serious may be needed to be done – and even if a baby does not eventuate, at least you and your partner will be well and vibrant.
The exchange of effort for results works for all athletes and it also works for marathon runners, and farmers and will for you too . . . It works for most who actually look after gardens, rearing animals and will also work out for your quality baby making if you take this seriously.
What used to happen – sex equals babies – now does not.
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